My parents are ALWAYS fighting. It's something that I have grown used to, but it still gets to me sometimes. Am I the only one who has to deal with this? I hope I'm not. How do you guys deal ?
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Posted 7 months ago #
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You are not alone. I don't exactly know how I deal with it because I have been used to it already. I just tell myself that this is their problem and that no matter how much I try to help and fix it, they are the only ones who could. So I just let them fight and hope that they would solve the problem that they are dealing with. Hope that helps!
Posted 7 months ago # -
It does help. a lot. I just have to keep reminding myself that it's not my fault and its not my problem to fix. thanks!
Posted 7 months ago # -
I think of like: when i fight with a friend, or someone i know, it only involves them, and no one else, so when my parents fight, its just between them. So it doesn't really bother me.
Posted 7 months ago # -
Trust me your not alone, growing up my parents were always fighting. My dad would put my mom, sister and I down emotionally, he never placed a hand on us. Until that one day...I stood up to him, I believe I was 7, he got so mad that he picked me up and through me across the room. My worst fear that I had while my parents were married was that I would grow up and marry someone like my dad, because I had gotten so used to all the yelling, but that's not my fear now. Just know that your not the only one, there are many people out there just like you.
A canter is the cure for every evil.
~Benjamin DisraeliPosted 7 months ago # -
i think you should stay out of it b/c everyone has their days...but if it is constantly occuring id pick the parent that ur most comfortable with and talk to them about. i did that once and it made me understand my parents relationship so much better and take a weight off my shoulders. you can do it:)
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@Ice Hockey Girl: I've wanted to do that for so long. Just sit my parents down and be like... listen... I don't know if you realize, but every time you guys fight, I'm affected. sometimes I wonder if they even realize how I feel. You said that you did that once... did it help the situation? Do they fight as much still ?
@Love146: one of my biggest fears is having a relationship like my parents. Their marriage just seems so loveless. they fight all the time. I'm glad I'm not alone.
Posted 7 months ago # -
@Ice Hockey Girl: I've wanted to do that for so long. Just sit my parents down and be like... listen... I don't know if you realize, but every time you guys fight, I'm affected. sometimes I wonder if they even realize how I feel. You said that you did that once... did it help the situation? Do they fight as much still ?
@Love146: one of my biggest fears is having a relationship like my parents. Their marriage just seems so loveless. they fight all the time. I'm glad I'm not alone.
Posted 7 months ago # -
@Caity: I have the same fear like you that I am going to marry a man just like my dad and turn out to be my parents. The thing is I know why they are fighting. Its because of another girl. My mom knows, my dad knows that she knows. Hell everyone in our family knows about it. I think it may be the reason that I dislike my dad a lot.
It may also be the reason that I do not get in the middle of their fight, because truthfully if I was in my mom's position I would have asked for a divorce already.
Posted 7 months ago # -
hang on there Caity!!
you're not alone ..the Fighting parents are everywhere these days - i mean come on why those people just go and get a divorce and stop making us miserable!!
My parents are not made for each other and we all know it.But my mom doesn't want to leave dad alone she isn't sure that he can be fine all by himself ,you see they got merried when they were young then i remember having a lovely childhood they were together for me ..now i'm sixteen and since the last fight they had i was like ''Mom why don't you get a divorce we're gonna be fine'' the funny thing is that she knows it but STILL she is with my dad ..he is not a bad man or anything,he is a great father but he is not that man for her(maybe he was when they married but not now) ..
so my best advice is - hang on , don't mess up with your parent's problems i bet you have a side but ..just stay cool!!
you'll go to college and everything will end up..ps.
i'm also afraid of loveless marrige..Posted 6 months ago # -
Thanks Megs. You better hold on too! I don't know about you, but I can't wait for the day I head off to college. Ugh! I really do have a side, and I would love to share it with them but it would only make matters worse. When they're fighting I just want to jump in and be like AHHHH!! THIS FIGHT IS SO DUMB, HOW CAN'T YOU SEE THAT!? But I refrain from getting involved with any of their conflicts. I feel like that is the best method.
Posted 6 months ago # -
Caity ..you're so right!!
My parents haven't had a REAL fight for a long time(a month or so) but the tension is everywhere ..and this is draving me crazy!!
I can't wait for the day I head off to college,eighter ..
because the loveless-ness of their marrige is just too much to handle..take care,C xx
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the super dumb fights are happening every single day(like even now.. they are arguing about 'where did my favorite knife go') but the little fights are so ..have no words but i bet you know what i meanPosted 6 months ago # -
ps- I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN!
Posted 6 months ago # -
what's up Caity ..
how are the things with your parents xPosted 6 months ago # -
Pretty good megs... surprisingly. I just got my permit so I imagine that whenever I finally get out on the road with them they'll start bickering about useless things. High stress situations seems to initiate their fighting.
How are things going with you and your parents?
Posted 6 months ago # -
glad that you're doing fine..
what can i say ..mine are radicolus!
I have a fever and i'm sick and they're in peace now .. lol but i guess that when i get better they'll star fighting for lame things again ..
how much time you have until you're of to college,C?? xPosted 6 months ago # -
Well I'm a sophomore now... So I have about two and a half more years of high-school. and then i'll be heading off to college... hopefully far away from here! What about you?
Posted 6 months ago # -
i'm a freshman ..gah i have to stay with them a year more than you!!
p.s.
Caity i think that we're the only one here LOL but what can i say..i'm happy that the other girls don't have our problem ..!!oh i have a question..
do the fights somehow disturb you..or they used to??Posted 6 months ago # -
Hmm, well the fights use to really bother me whenever I was little. Like I would lay awake at night depressed and crying because I could hear them fighting, but now I have become so numb that I just tune it out. I remember one night when they fought so loud that our neighbors called the cops. It was so terrible. That was one of the worst experiences of my life.
Do the fights bother you? Or do you just ignore them?
Posted 6 months ago # -
you poor thing ..i'm glad we grew up lol
well my parents like i told you once didn't fight in front of me when i was little and normaly they just don't fight in front of me but when i hear them fighting now i just ingone them ..i mean come on what more can we do ?!!do you have your ways to manipulate them..??
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